5 reasons why guys never learn how to pick up girls


When it comes to powers of attraction, men aren’t particularly comp

Is there something specific that prevents you from picking up girls?

It doesn’t matter whether you’re just biding your time over doing so or whether you think it’s immoral, we have written an article to show you the five most ridiculous reasons as to why men choose not to improve their game.

If being sexually inexperienced, miserable and on your own is not where you want to be when you turn 40, then be sure to keep reading and put our words of wisdom into play.

Remember to share this post if you know someone who is in danger of being a 40-year-old virgin.

licated creatures.  Just witnessing the youthful charms of any gorgeous female is usually enough to get them all hot about the collar!

We know this statement may seem abrupt but it’s been proven throughout evolution.  Is it this straightforward for women, though?  Is the only thing women find attractive, a financial benefit?

We think this needs further exploration…

1. Learning the game of “picking up” is immoral

There are some men who decide that they do not want to learn how to pick up, as they feel that this makes them look seedy, controlling and immoral.

If you are battling with your inner morals and have every intention of living your best life as a celibate monk, you might as well stop reading this article now.  It is completely irrelevant that you know that book numbers educating women on male seduction methods greatly outweigh the number of books illustrating how men can pick up women.  Can you believe that!?

Try it out for yourself – literally, go into any bookstore or try Amazon, and you’ll be astounded as to how many more books are aimed at women seducing men, not the other way around.

It is much more appealing to any woman, for a guy to know what she wants, fantasizes about, and what turns them on, rather than to be approached by someone really coy, awkward and unaware of her desires.  In his book The Art of Seduction, Robert Greene writes that “People want to be led astray, they yearn to be seduced.  If they didn’t, seducers would not find so many willing victims.  Get rid of any moralizing tendencies, adopt the seducer’s playful philosophy, and you will find the rest of the process easy and natural.”

So, if you are one of the guys out there that claim that you won’t pick up girls due to your moral stance, please be aware that girls actually want and like being seduced.  In fact, they are actually educating themselves as to how they can seduce you whilst you’re in bed with your morals.

2. Playing The Game is just bullsh*t

Our next reason for men refusing to enter into The Game of picking up is because they actually cannot comprehend that there is actually any form of method behind picking up girls.  These guys think that taking a girl home at the end of the night is down luck or only occurs if you’re a naturally attractive man who oozes sex appeal.

Just a little insight here – we are going to share a personal story with you:

I was rather dubious when I first discovered the seduction community, and my friends were, too.  Then when I told my friends that I was going to buy a book based on said topic, they were all of a similar persuasion, that it was a waste of time and that it would most likely be complete bullsh*t.

With none of my friends having particularly good track records with attracting girls and having never really looked into the art of picking up for themselves, I decided that it was up to me to try it out!

Thanks to my student loan, I decided to use some of the money and download the audiobook that every ladies man starts his journey with: Double Your Dating.  Impatiently, I waited for the audiobook to arrive from America and finally, all 12 CDs arrived.  As soon as I took receipt of it, I began listening, with flatmates popping in here and there for a quick listen, but would leave rapidly, uttering “what a load of bullsh*t!”  I decided to ignore them and the more I listened, the more I learned.

It wasn’t long until I could put everything I had learned into practice, chatting up beautiful girls in bars who would later become my girlfriends.  I was absolutely convinced that the new methods I had learned were the reason I had become successful with the ladies, despite the awful outfit I was wearing at the time when I met the love of my life!

Since reading Double Your Dating, I have read a lot more books on the topic, too.  My friends all now refer to me specifically as “that guy”, as I am the one who cleans up when we’ve all be out.

It is all down to Richard La Ruina’s rejection proof techniques that I am now getting a minimum of two, one night stands every week!  Just like Robert Greene states in The Art of Seduction, “Seducers do not improvise; they do not leave this process to chance.  Like any good general, they plan and strategize, aiming at the target’s particular weakness.”

Before I could listen, learn and change my ways with picking up women, I first had to overcome something:

3. The Unwillingness to change

It’s really difficult to sit back and admit to yourself that you’re not going to achieve anything if you keep going in the same vein that you are currently doing so.  It’s difficult to realize that you have no game or you’re playing the wrong game.  But the quicker you realize, admit and re-educate yourself, the less likely you are to become the 40-year-old virgin amongst your group of friends.  Discover exactly what it is that eliminates all barriers between you and the women you would not have come into contact with before.

Are you ready to be the man that all women want to meet?

Those of you not ready to change, are not ready to meet women, and certainly won’t be meeting THE woman any time soon.

But, if you are ready to make some changes, adapt and re-educate yourself, why not have a look at our Stealth Attraction Review, where you will discover how Richard La Ruina can aid your meeting of women in great quantities and help you to find a way to take them home with you.

If you can accept small alterations, women will also begin to accept you for who you are.

When we speak about changing and altering, we are not referring to replacing the personality you currently have, we just want to draw on the best parts of you and lessen the not quite so wonderful bits.  It’s actually really exciting – play around with loads of different techniques and styles; see which one works for you in the best possible way.  In The Art of Seduction, Robert Greene highlights this by saying “Seducers can be anyone and can assume many roles…not weighed down by their identity, or by some need to be themselves, or to be natural.  This freedom of theirs, this fluidity in body and spirit, is what makes them attractive.”

4. Happy with settling

Sadly, there are large numbers of men that just settle with keeping their hands on any girl they can, because they are worried that they won’t meet another girl and they do not want to end up on their own.  They settle just because it’s easy!

If you learn the art of picking up girls, then this overwhelming fear felt by so many, will never rear its ugly head again.  If you are not in a happy, full-filling relationship, you will be able to relax knowing that you are more than capable of getting back out there and catching yourself a new and wonderful lady.  All is not lost!  Once you learn how to pick up women successfully, your new found knowledge will never leave you.

More to the point, once you begin going out more and seeing how women vary, you will see just how many options you have.  This will also help you to narrow down exactly what kind of woman you think would be best for you as girlfriend or even as wife material.  This will mean that the risk of you being trapped in a dead-end, loveless, boring relationship will be hugely decreased.  This is illustrated very clearly in The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida, “If you want real passion, you need to be a ravisher and a ravishee; otherwise, you just have two buddies who decide to rub genitals in bed.”

Is there anything worse for just settling for someone because it’s the easiest thing for you to do?  Ummm….yes!  Playing the waiting game is so much worse!

5. There’s no rush to settle down

Matt Ridley, in his book, The Red Queen, wrote that “Men who have lived significant lives are men who never waited: not for money, security, ease, or women.”

We are in complete agreement with this statement.  We think that the biggest mistake you could possibly make is to hang around waiting for “the one” though you’ll never know if something better is going to appear than perhaps what’s staring you straight in the face!

Yeah, we know that some men are really fortunate and have little miss perfect fall directly into their arms one day, but life isn’t that much of a Disney movie for most of us!  It is so rare that we ever win the big prizes when it comes to the game of waiting because there are so many odds working against us.

There is someone, “the one”, in fact, out there for all of us.  But if you don’t put any effort into going out to meet her, then she’s probably not stupid enough to hang around waiting for you.  She will already have gone off with someone who can immediately see how wonderful she is and picks her up as soon as they meet her.

Remember, time creeps up on all of us.  The longer you wait, the higher your chance of being the 40-year-old virgin, trying to figure out what exactly it was that you spent your youth waiting for…

Life is a jungle; perhaps thinking that you are a gazelle and that a cheetah is chasing you may spur you on not to waste your time and end up on your own at 40.  The analogy used for this in The Red Queen, is “What matters to the gazelle is being faster than the other gazelles, not being faster than cheetahs.”

If you have had enough of witnessing the jocks getting all of the attention and taking all the girls home, perhaps it’s time you did something about it.  Do something to overtake them.  Don’t get stuck in a lonely hole on your own for the rest of your life – you deserve better!

Our summary of helping you pick up girls

Learning something new and changing your old ways can be scary, we understand that.  We get that just thinking about making all of these alterations to your life can seem like you’re up the creek without a paddle.

But did you know that just by reading this post you’ve already taken the first and most challenging step?  You have recognized that you needed help and needed to alter your methods which is exactly what we have shown you.  See, it wasn’t that hard, was it!  You’re already halfway there!

Do not think that to pick up girls you have to change every element of who you are – you don’t.

There aren’t lots of lines you have to learn off by heart like you’re playing the lead role in a movie.  We want you to be yourself, the very best version of yourself.  We know it sounds uber cheesy but it really is true.

Richard La Ruina, and other such gurus, will make it clear to you that it is your method of communication and how you use body language, which are the key secrets to picking up girls.

If you would like to learn more from Richard La Ruina, you can click this link here to find out more about his online video course called “Stealth Attraction.”  Alternatively, you can take a look at our Stealth Attraction Review here.

It is impossible to know what you are capable of until you give it a go.  When you do, just thinking back to how you used to be and how you used to try and pick up girls will make you laugh out loud (or perhaps squirm with embarrassment!)

Hopefully, this article has been of some use to you.  If you like, please share it with your friends, or tag people in it whom you think could benefit from reading it.  Your friends may also need some motivation when it comes to helping them get the ladies.  Maybe you’re the one to help lead them in the right direction?  Take a look at our full Stealth Attraction review here.

If you can think of any more reasons that prevent men from picking up girls, please let us know!

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