Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you’ve met someone you really like, and you thought they really liked you too? Every sign they gave you indicated that they really liked you; they chatted with you and gave you their attention. They flirted, batted their eyelashes, tailored their body language towards you, they even gave you their number.
Yet, when you’ve gone to use their number to contact them the next day or a few days later perhaps, you are met with only silence. Perhaps you are met with purely silence, maybe she goes quiet after a date is suggested, or she even texts you for a while and then just completely disappears off of the face of the Earth. It is more common than you might think.
This brings us to Magnetic Messaging, and how much it can help you to stop getting rejected and start actually getting somewhere with the person you want.
So what is Magnetic Messaging?
Magnetic Messaging is an eBook and it was created by Bobby Rio and Rob Judge, internet gurus on dating and love life advice. Some people may find them a bit brash and callous, but they really do get results in the world of dating women and keeping women interested.
They have a big online presence on sites such as YouTube which is chocked full of videos about them and their work that you can watch at your leisure. Lots of these are focused around their website ‘unlockherlegs’ .com which again, a bit forward, but it reels people in and people do seem to love their approach to finding a date.
There are example texts, things to copy and adapt and tips for people to follow to gain the most of the conversations that they are trying to have with prospective dating partners. We will have a more in depth look at the bit by bit steps of the eBook next.
How it begins
The eBook begins by covering fatal mistakes when it comes to initiating or moving forward to the first date. This is all centered around the theory of texting and how badly texting can let you down if it is not done right. They coin this part of the process ‘the phone game’.
According to Rio and Judge, this is the part that can go the most badly most quickly. With a lack of phone game comes a lack of anything. There’s not a hope of securing a date, if you don’t know how to talk to a lady without sending her running for the hills.
They claim that by improving the way that you communicate via text messaging, you will naturally improve the rates at which you attain dates. Mistakes that men always gravitate towards making are claimed to be some of the following:
Waiting too long
This is a classic mistake. If you have decided because of movie clichés or whatever reason that a girl wants to be made to wait for three days to feel respected or because you want to play hard to get, you are wrong. Horribly, horribly wrong. Do not do this.
The majority of women, from surveys and research, want to be contacted at the maximum of two days after an initial interaction. Three days is just a bit insulting. In fact nearly 50% of women would prefer this to be the next day that they are contacted, if that seems a bit soon then it is in your head not hers.
Think of like this; the sooner that you send that text, the sooner you can start chatting and getting down to the real business of things. You will still be on her mind as you’ve only met really recently and she will be thinking that you want to take this seriously and she’s not just one of many you’ve got queued up waiting to text.
Pet names instead of real names
This just makes her think you don’t know her actual name. You could be texting any number of girls and calling them ‘babe’, how is she to know? Pet names are better off reserved for when and if you get to the relationship part of dating, when you both know each other better and BOTH feel a bit more secure with the situation.
Use her name, it won’t hurt you. It will also show her that you respect her, something that is important in the world of dating. She doesn’t want to feel like just another number in your phone book. That is a major turn off.
Appearing too eager
This can include anything from double texting without getting a reply, to absolutely not responding properly to anything she’s said because you’re texting out of excitement rather than actually thinking about your response.
She needs to know that you have other things going on for you other than staring at your phone waiting for a text. You need to be interesting to her, not desperate.
You also need to be picking up on her vibes and what she wants from you. This means finding a balance in terms of text replying times – don’t make her wait two days to get a response to ‘how are you?’. She will say bye very quickly, or probably not even respond at all, and we don’t blame her.
Being too friendly too quickly
Ahem, don’t send her the naked pictures straight up, and DEFINITELY don’t send her them if she hasn’t asked for them. That’s just not cool. In fact it is the opposite of cool; it could be classified as harassment. You don’t need that, you’re better than that.
She might really like how you look with your shirt off, or how pert your buttocks are, but she doesn’t want to see them too soon and she doesn’t want to see them without seeing them in person first.
You are also devaluing yourself, yes men can devalue themselves. It is slightly degrading and reeks a bit of desperation to just throw your body out there for whomever to see. Either that or you are extremely narcissistic, which hey each to their own.
Think of a different way that she will actually want to respond to without feeling weird and like you are a bit of a creep, and therefore immediately blocking you, to put a smile on her face. There are plenty of options out there that don’t involve your unsolicited body pictures.
It works both ways as well; begging for pictures of her in her underwear is going to be a major no, no. It is, we should think, self explanatory as to why. She doesn’t want to be objectified so unless she makes it very, extremely clear that she wants some naughty texting, stay away from it and let her take the lead until you’ve established some routine and rapport.
Overdoing it with the compliments
This action could go one of two ways really. One – she thinks you’re an insincere idiot who just spouts this stuff of to every girl he meets, gets the number of, and starts a texting relationship with. This is not a picture you want to paint of yourself. You want to look sincere and like you actually mean what you’re saying to her.
So find a balance between compliments in every text and no compliments at all. There really is a fine line between her thinking you’re just a bit too much and your attentions lie elsewhere to you’re not interested at all and you never have anything nice to say.
Drunken texting works much the same as sending unsolicited body pictures, she doesn’t like nor does she want you to do it. It is also a major turn off and a silly mistake to make. If you can’t control yourself while drunk, give your phone to someone to look after.
It is a rare occasion when a lady will actually find it sweet, for example if she is in a relationship with you and you’ve been together a while then you go ahead and drunk text whatever the hell you fancy. Just please don’t do it when you haven’t even made a first date yet.
No, don’t do any of this. Instead, what is recommended is that you try to spark her emotions and make a personal connection with her while maintaining the image, if it is just an image, that you are confident and in control of where things are going. Easy peasy, right?
What happens next?
Now, you have to let her know while avoiding all of the above, that you actually do want to date her in person not just through text. Magnetic Messaging suggest that there is only a two text buffer before you propose something along the lines of meeting in person to get the ball rolling properly, otherwise you may fall into a trap of texting and losing all nerve. Act while everything is still fresh.
She doesn’t want to feel like you’re hanging around for no reason and chances are she also really wants to get the ball rolling as soon as possible. After all, texting is nowhere near the same as sitting their face to face and engaging with each other in person is it?
What if she just doesn’t seem interested?
Sometimes an interaction is a lost cause and everybody knows it. However Rio and Judge advocate for the fact that every situation has a positive outcome for everyone involved.
They call these interactions ‘low interest girls’. Their suggestion is that you don’t act needy, but you do maintain a level of letting it brush off your shoulder if she loses interest or shows no interest what so ever in you. Even if she showed interest in you in truck loads when you first met, she might have been pretending or have been polite you never know what is going on in someone’s head that’s not you.
The eBook gives examples of how to deal with situations like this. They provide text by text play by plays for you to read and emulate in your own interactions. They provide actual results from actual interactions so you can see exactly what has been said and how it worked.
They even provide information and expert tips that they swear work for dealing with standard excuses. Have you ever been hit with the ‘I can’t I’m washing my hair tonight’ text? I’m sure we’ve all been there, or something similarly as trivial. Don’t worry, because this book has an answer and a way around that for you that you won’t be disappointed by and you will leave the conversation on better terms than you could have previously hoped for.
So when you
Or sort of dating, or going on dates, whatever you want to call it. What happens then?
It is suggested that you shift the pattern of things a bit once a dating pattern has been established and ONLY after a dating pattern has been established. The focus needs to move onto you, making her see you as a good and viable thing in her life, rather than someone on the other end of a text message she might see once a week for a drink.
This is all about making sure she feels comfortable with you, which can be achieved in a number of many ways. It is kind of up to you and your personality how you play this part, talking on the phone over texting is always preferable as it helps to establish a rapport between you both.
Getting used to each other’s voice is a nice way to connect with someone on a more personal level. It also takes away some of the awkwardness if you are pre first date.
Especially after sex, you need to be super careful. If you do start sleeping together, you can’t just drop everything you’ve learnt and go back to being a failure at texting her. Things will go downhill quite quickly. If done right, it could lead to actual dating and even sexting: Which let’s face it, is exciting for everyone involved if done properly and thoughtfully.
- Any situation you can possibly think of that you might struggle with is covered in this eBook. If you need advice, it is 99% guaranteed to be in there.
- The tips actually work as well. As long as you stick to what you’ve read and learnt, there’s no reason why things should go sour once you’ve established something meaningful for the both of you.
- It is very accessible, easy to read, and very entertaining at the same time. It is something you can come back to time and time again.
- Some of the book is low on actual content to read, so other areas seem to take priority.
- The organization and layout are a bit hard to follow at times: Though this is a minor bug bear more than anything.
This is a great book, with certainly value for money. It will cost you $47, but you can keep it forever and take it with you always whether that is just getting a date, or building future relationships it’s up to you.
It is easy to use and very accessible and kind of a timeless product, especially in a modern world where technology can lead dating.