Would you like to learn how to approach girls? Let’s forget about using cheesy one-liners. If your body language is not right, you can wave goodbye to THE girl before you’ve even said one word to her.
Women are very perceptive beings, much more so than men. They can read body language and signals as if they have a sixth sense for them. So what exactly can you do in order to be able to master your approach? Generally, we find that it’s a lot easier to learn when we are shown what NOT to do, so that’s exactly how we are going to help you to get your girl.
There are roughly eight different varieties of people who fail every time when they are trying to approach a woman. Do you recognize yourself as being one of them? If you do, don’t worry! By the time you’ve finished reading this post, you will be a body language master and you’ll be sure to “get the girl!”
1. The Stalker
Looking is fine, but don’t stare. Eye contact is a brilliant cue for striding over and beginning a conversation with her. If you’re just looking at her, but not acting, you will just be seen as a bit of a stalker.
The Stalker is renowned for their creepy episodes of simply staring at someone in particular. The Stalker is not deterred even when the girl he is staring at notices that he is doing this, but this will not prevent or cease him from his creepy, staring episode.
Being a stalker, also means that he is prone to following the girl around and not letting her out of his sight. He will usually bide his time to approach her until she is on her own and there is not a gaggle of girls surrounding her which is threatening to him. But because she has noticed him stalking, staring and following her around, she is rarely susceptible to his advances once he has plucked up the courage, and she usually flees immediately.
2. The Tightrope Walker
The Tightrope Walker prefers more of a dramatic approach when it comes to approaching a girl; he prefers not to hang about but walks directly up to his girl. He will fend off any obstacle that may get in his way. Some see this type of approach as being somewhat heroic, but actually, The Tightrope Walker is making a real rookie error. By approaching a girl in such a direct manner, she will view this as threatening and her defenses will be raised high. But The Tightrope Walker likes to take a risk and he knows elements of how to comfort his girl. These are very attractive qualities to a woman.
Our Tightrope Walker might think about taking a lesson or two from a crab – strafing is the key here.
3. The Drunken
Okay, so the majority of us require a little Dutch courage before we feel liberated enough to bite the bullet. But once you’ve crossed the line between using alcohol as a courage aid and being a drunken mess, well it’s game over!
The Drunken is famous for stumbling over to his chosen target, and slurring very repetitively at her, which she finds (understandably) very annoying.
The only bird this fella will be getting tonight is fried chicken on his drunken stumble home.
4. The Space Invader
Invading someone’s personal space or “getting all up in my grill” is not a pleasant feeling for any woman; it’s threatening! The comfort zone of any woman should always be respected, though we know that sometimes The Space Invader is unaware that they are doing this.
The Space Invader is really good at terrifying girls, and if he decides to use the typical Space Invader move of tapping a girl on the shoulder and does so in the wrong location, well, she will be completely traumatized!
What’s the worst kind of Space Invader? No, it’s not the start of a bad joke. The worst type of Space Invader is one with really bad breath. If you recognize the signs of this category as being characteristics of yourself, make sure you are a gum-chewing Space Invader.
5. The Pigeon
The Pigeon is more than capable of respecting personal space, but is only able to do so with his body. Unfortunately, his head is all too frequently “up in her grill.”
The Pigeon is well known for leaning in towards a girl on his approach, but this is only viewed as being overly needy from the girls’ perspective. Don’t Pigeons know that it should be girls fighting for their attention and not vice versa? But, The Pigeon is unable to understand this and ends up being well and truly shunted.
6. The Procrastinator
The Procrastinator can be recognized by their use of the phrase “I just need one more drink” (or something similar).
Yes, we’ve all had times where we have used really lame excuses to get out of or slow down our approach when it comes to walking over to a beautiful lady. But The Procrastinator doesn’t just delay this event from occurring, he will do absolutely anything to avoid crossing the room at all.
The Procrastinator may be able to tell he likes a girl immediately, but he is unable to act fast. He would much rather “faff about” for a while in order to pluck up the courage. The problem with this is that by the time he actually does manage to get over to the girl, he hasn’t noticed that she’s either left the building or has already been swept off her feet by some other guy, much quicker in his approach.
The Procrastinator is the best person for missing out on any opportunity. Remember, Mr. Procrastinator, if you don’t ask, you don’t get!
7. The Pervert
So, we think that The Pervert is possibly the worst kinda guy you could be. It’s just so cringey and embarrassing having to witness him quite clearly overly showing his sexual interest.
The Pervert has no interest in talking to a girl or initiating a conversation with her. His favorite initiation point is a good ass pinch, whilst licking his lips and blatantly staring at her boobs.
Being shoved (very quickly) into the friend-zone is the least of his problems though. Sadly, no night out is complete without The Pervert getting a hefty slap around the face. No girl enjoys any aspect of his seedy, awkward approach at all.
8. The Disco Dancer
For some men, working our moves on the dance floor is a useful way to woo the woman of your dreams, because this does not entail having to use many conversational techniques. The only problem here is that there are a very limited number of men that have the ability to dance as if they have just stepped straight out of Dirty Dancing.
The Disco Dancer is not perturbed by the DJs choice of music – he will happily throw his shapes to any beat. You name it: moonwalking, doing the robot, or twerking, he thinks he can do it all. But these so-called “moves” will not gain him the attention he is hoping for, instead, the crowd just walks away.
8 types of no success
We have just described our top eight types of men whom we guarantee will never have success if they approach a woman in any of the ways above. Do you think that The Pervert is the worse type of guy? Make sure you read this article to prevent falling into his wicked ways.
If you never want to be classified as being one of these failing eight, we want to share some helpful tips with you to enable you to win your girl.
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1, 2, 3…
If you see a girl you like in a bar, make sure you go over to her within three seconds. Count it in your head and just go for it.
Only counting to three will prevent you from overthinking the situation and will stop you from getting anxious, nervous or worried, which can often be debilitating. If you take any longer than our recommended three seconds, you’ll either blow it or she will just think you are The Stalker.
If you go in all guns blazing just like The Tightrope Walker, she will think you are being confrontational. You will also risk “stirring up resistance that will never be lowered,” as Robert Greene states in The Art of Seduction.
By approaching her in an indirect manner, she will not view you as a threat and none of your seductive intentions will be noticed by her at all. So it seems that the best thing to do is to find some middle ground, and just try to make her comfortable in your company.
If this is a challenging concept for you to get your head around, let’s learn from the crocodile…
For hunting successfully, the crocodile lingers within the shallows of a watering hole. He is patient and slow in his approach, waiting for the perfect moment to go in for the kill. If he was direct, his hunt would always be unsuccessful, and he would quickly starve to death.
No, we aren’t suggesting you eat the girl of your dreams…but you get the idea…
So how do you approach your desired girl in an indirect way? Well, the best thing to do is to approach her at a 45-degree angle. This way she will not feel threatened and she will slowly become aware of you coming towards her. Be a crocodile and approach with caution! Do not face her directly. Try talking over your shoulder instead. She will work for your attention.
This is the exact opposite of The Pigeon. The Pigeon is needy, but body rocking just shows that you are carefree. Give the impression that you are about to walk away. This will disarm your girl and she will be unable to put up any resistance.
How to Body Rock
When you initiate your approach, you want to make it seem as if you’re almost doing a “drive-by.” This means that we recommend you indirectly approaching, addressing her over your shoulder and giving a carefree attitude.
To use the Body Rocking approach, you will seem as if you are dipping in and out of the conversation with your body. Make her work. Get her to work for your attention. When you’ve captured each other’s attention, she will be facing you head on, and you must reciprocate. This is your cue to cease your body rocking and face her so that the attraction stage can begin.
By combing body rocking with a pretend time constraint which you have placed upon yourself, you will prevent rejection of any form. Try thinking “I can only stay here for a minute, I need to get back to my friends.”
Approaching a girl for the first time should be a fun thing to do. Just promise us that you won’t be one of the dreaded eight on your next night out!
Are anxiety or rejection issues for you? Try reading our review of Stealth Attraction.
Just for fun, why do you think we give the cuttlefish first prize for its approaching skills in the wild?
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Is there another type of approach that you think we’ve missed out?