Dating after divorce may be very traumatizing. No matter which age you chose to get married and meet someone new the will always be that feeling of Fear when meeting someone new. Love is a beautiful feeling but at the same time, it can cause an intense loss in fear. Of course, you want your partner to feel loved but can’t help think and reminisce.
Dating is definitely a slow process that you have to be intentional about. When you start dating you have to know what you’re looking for and what you’re hoping to get out of the relationship. Of course, when dating you’re just looking for which person works better for you. You can either date one person at a time or multiple people at once depending on your comfort levels. Regardless the outcome of wanting to find the one for you is the aim.
How to start dating after divorce
There are a few ways that could help you feel more comfortable as you get back into the dating life. You have to look at life overall. Life is not black and white and needs you to understand that nothing is forever. Every ounce of happiness and every exciting experience you’ve ever had had to end at some point. Although people view this as a negative thing it is the thing that makes life so beautiful. If we always felt happy and we were always excited and always knew what the ending was there would be little growth within ourselves. The same applies to dating, here are a few ways to start dating after divorce:
Have no expectations
Once you have expectations for a dating experience against someone easier to ruin. Instead, get into your dating life with no expectations. Often people compare dating life to what they see on social media or what they hear from their friends. Either way, go there with the intention of simply just having fun and getting to know different people. There is no right or wrong way for a date to be the key is to just get to know each other.
Don’t compare Your new dating life to your old one
Often people will compare how their ex wooed them before they were married. All the romantic things you may have done together and all the things you do together or not what your new dating life will be like. People are different and you have to let them show you their affection and emotions in their difference. When you start comparing the two, your new partner will definitely feel that energy and not feel secure and possibly not want to continue a relationship with you. Because you seem to be so stuck up in the past.
Know what you want to get out of it/intentions
It’s important to know what you hope to get out of your dating stage. You could move up to a serious relationship but things like marriage have to be discussed. Some people are still open to getting married even if it’s someone who has been divorced. Your intention should be stated from the beginning that you are only looking to test Waters or try again with marriage and potentially have kids.
Think about potential marriage
As stated above marriage will be a big topic. This is something you need to think about before even fully committing to dating. When marriage doesn’t work out for some people they tend to you negatively or around where are the people you might end up dating or people who still do value marriage. You need to think about marriage outside of your situation. Where it’s not emotionally attached to your ex but instead of emotion attached to being with someone and marrying someone completely new. If it’s something you’re still not into then it’s important to make that clear. Know why you want to get married.
Can you start dating after being divorced?
Yes. You can start dating whenever you feel most comfortable. Whether it’s six months after being divorced or 3 years after being divorced there will always be people ready to date you and wanting to get to know you. Sometimes people are willing to get married to you. It is all up to you and your comfort of whether you want to put yourself back on the market or stay single for some time.
Your style of dating is your business and to always put your needs. Dating might be different now compared to when you and your ex-husband or wife might have started dating. The best way is to go into this dating spree with no expectations. Once you are certain of which way you would like to date and what kind of people you want to attract dating will not seem so hard and not make you feel so anxious.