Rebuilding a past relationship is something that a number of people go through. There will always be the partner with that we feel we have a lot of unfinished business and maybe in another life word be together again. Eventually, life creates a moment where you two will meet again and might have the chance to rebuild your relationship one more time. All of us usually know deep down that it’s either this time or it will never happen again. The chances of it happening again only reinforces a level of toxic behaviour that nobody wants to be a part of. If you are thinking of rebuilding a past relationship here are a few things to keep in mind.
When is the right time to rebuild a past relationship?
The best time to rebuild a past relationship is after a long period. This is months after missing each other healing from the experience and possibly having moved on at some point. This applies if the ending of your previous relationship did not go too well or simply did not work out. We often tend to hold onto the relationships in which we were never dating or only dated for a short period. This way if you have both healed there is no resentment or blame game about why certain things did not work out.
When you guys meet again there should be an atmosphere of genuine peace and happiness individually and amongst you two. You both should feel a breath of fresh air when talking to each other and no malicious intent in your conversation or your newfound friendship/relationship.
How long should it take to rebuild a relationship?
Of course when you guys made it will not and it should not be straight into a relationship. It’s the mature and healthy thing to do to conversate about why it did not work out before and how things have changed now. Hopefully, in this time you both are grown and know what you’re hoping to get out of each other. It should not take you long to know that you want to be together but it should also not be rushed as a fantasy of what didn’t work out before.
Have clear intentions, this should be easier because you know each other, but be patient with the process. At the right time, your relationship will become exclusive and official. In today’s world, this usually takes about less than a month. It has been said by multiple relationship gurus that if a guy takes over three months to officialize a relationship with you he might not like you as much as you think. This is because men tend to know who they want to be with almost immediately women on the other hand know as well but when it comes to longevity need some convincing.
Things to remember when rebuilding a relationship
There are a few general things that you should remember when you’re building a relationship that will likely help your relationship last longer. Both sides should try their best to partake in remembering these things, so a conversation before official rising anything would be best. Here are a few things to remember;
- Allow each other to be our new version do not hold onto the past.
- Treat the experience like a new experience.
- Do not take each other for granted now that you have given each other a second chance.
- Learn from past mistakes And tried to implement new decisions.
- Be everything you wanted to be for this person before the relationship did not work out.
What if building a relationship does not work?
If you are trying to rebuild a relationship and it does not work out that is completely ok. Not every relationship we tried to get into will work out for the better some are just a learning experience that helps us to prepare for the next relationship. It would simply mean that you two are not meant for each other and friendship would be a great option for the two of you. People do have a huge tendency of thinking that everyone they get along with very well is meant to be their romantic partner and this is not true.