This generation has taken it upon itself to have a deep sense of knowing yourself and with that knowledge be able to give others love. Knowing your love languages opens a whole new path to your old self. Many believe that your love language stems a lot from your childhood and how your parents showed you love. There are 5 different types of love languages and these play a big role in who you are.
Types of love languages
There are 5 types of love languages. Each of these love languages shows itself in different ways. Here are the 5 love languages:
This is one of the most common love languages. This does not necessarily mean sexual contact, which could be one way of showing it but it is simply always being in contact. Whether it’s holding hands, random squeezes, or the need for hugs these all show affection. The downside is not everyone quite enjoys being touched, trying to find the balance between showing affection and not overdoing the constant touch.
Of course, spending time with your partner is important and needed for the relationship. Seeing each other as often as possible is for the better of your relationship of course but not everyone feels the constant need for it. There are people who genuinely need and make time for their loved ones because making time is the best way they know how. Quality time may be being in each other’s space even for a day.
For a lot of people, this is all they know. This applies to giving and/or receiving gifts. Often times it works both ways. People who love to give gifts may often have the same passion for receiving them. Time effort and thought are put highly into gifts and is something they feel strongly about.
Words of affirmation
Words are one of the greatest things and at the same time deadly. Words hold so much power, and some people hold even greater power in those words. Giving little reassurances, affirming how you feel, even love letters can go a long way with people whose love languages are words of affirmation.
Acts of service
Acts of service is one that plays highly in men. Simply being able to do something for others is a huge love language. Being able to cook dinner, take care of a project for you, any little or big action is the way this love language works. Any action to make you happy or make your life easier is what this is rooted in.
Shadow side of love languages
Our love languages tend to also be our greatest avoidant attachment styles. Things we do when we fear love or fear attachment. This is often shown by self-destructive people who have maybe loved before but in the process get heartbroken. The best thing to do when you find you have one of these avoidant attachment styles is to embrace them when others do them for you. This will only open your heart up more. Here are a few examples:
As much as you know you yearn to touch and be touched, you cannot stand it when someone tries to touch you. Hugs from friends or family may make you feel awkward and it may come off as thou don’t want it.
No matter what your friends, family or crush invites you to, you find yourself not wanting to. Although you love them you cancel plans, don’t make time for calls, and simply keep to yourself.
Not wanting to spend your money on anyone because you maybe feel they don’t deserve it. Feel as though can deprive them by using materials even when they’ve done nothing wrong. This is usually when you know this is your hate language, and positively your love language.
Words of affirmation
This one is pretty straightforward. You will find yourself often trying to kill those you love with words. Even your own self-talk might come off rude and neglectful when you know you need to speak to yourself better.
Acts of service
Not wanting to do anything for those you love when you know you could. Almost like punishment towards people who haven’t done anything wrong to you.