Everyone talks a great deal about marriage. From the time we’re toddlers many of us are put in plays or matched up with a partner of similar age and labelled husband and wife. It’s what we constantly see in Disney movies how we are meant to find the one and live happily ever after.
With people letting go of the old norms and diving into an era where you can be who want to be and in some ways understand yourself better. People have contemplated whether marriage is for them. Is marriage for everyone?
All you need to know before marriage?
Marriage is not child’s play. It is being able to commit to something until you possibly can’t anymore. There will be trials and tribulations, it’s natural but it is about choosing to continue with your partner. It’s one thing to love a person and another to marry them.
Being married can be seen as having a sibling. As much as you love your siblings you have fights and makeup all the time. With marriage, the intensity may be higher than with your siblings because this is not someone you grew up with or are forced to be with. A number of people lately just resort to divorce when they can’t anymore.
This is not to say that divorce should be as normalized as a high school break-up, but it cannot be the first solution to ending a fight. It takes strength and endurance to fully be in marriage. But marriage isn’t always hard.
Marriage is beautiful when you are with the right person. Mind you, the right person does not quite exist. You find someone you get along with and you continue to work to stick together. When you both choose to be happy and love each other, something beautiful can blossom out of your relationship. The right person or your true love maybe two different people or maybe even the same person, but it’s all about effort.
Is marriage for everyone?
Marriage is definitely not for everyone. In this generation, we are fortunate enough to not have to marry our first boyfriend at 17. Things have changed and evolved. People now have their first marriage at the age of 30 or even later. It isn’t something we are forced to do to make a name or an impression.
Life is not something we all do together. It isn’t something we all do the same way in order to succeed. The same goes for a marriage. Not every marriage is happy and not every marriage is filled with love. In research, it has come up several times how people have married for convenience and not because of love.
Other people are simply non-committers. And this does not automatically mean they don’t feel love or are cheaters. Not everyone wants to be tied down with someone forever. The need for freedom is what they thrive on, what makes them feel happiest. And as a society, we cannot expect everything to pan out the same way.
Our thoughts on marriage
Although marriage may be deemed beautiful, it’s a lot of emotion and fights are needed in order to sustain it. And not everyone is willing to do all that work, and honestly, they shouldn’t be expected to. Everyone should have the choice to be happily single or happily in a relationship. It shouldn’t be expected of people to just be in relationships.
