Remarrying has become very common in today’s age this is because people no longer feel as though they need to be tied down to their early Adulthood partners. Often people decide to get married between their 20s to their early thirties and records have shown with the high divorce rates that marriages are no longer lasting. Which is completely fine. The downside is with me marrying a lot of people have a lot of trust issues because they don’t want to repeat the mistakes of the past. Mistakes such as being as though this person is the one for you and turns out to be the complete opposite. If you are looking to remarry here is advice on how to remarry.
“Am I ready to remarry?”
This is a very important question to ask yourself. Whether this is marrying in your 30s or 40s you have to sit down with yourself and find an answer. There is a big difference between marriage and dating with a lot of people tend to overlook. When dating no matter how serious it is the expectation is not as intense as in marriage. Yes, you still love your partner intensely but everything is different in marriage from 5 to the type of intimacy you two have. A lot of people have even come forward and said the sex in marriage is different.
You may feel as though you are experienced in marriage and know what it entails but remember not every marriage is the same. When it comes to comparing your last married to a new marriage this is a big no. You are already stepping into the marriage with a negative notion which does not serve anyone. The only thing you need to keep in mind is to be open to whatever trials and tribulations you to my face and these are not the toxic kinds but the kind that come naturally.
Things to keep in mind when remarrying
There are a few basic things you want to keep in mind before you remarry. It will not be easy to remind yourself of these but you have to force it down your throat. Here are a few things to keep in mind:
- Allow yourself to have a new experience
- Your partner also has their own previous baggage and it’s important to think about how you would feel if they put their baggage on you, so treat them how you want to be treated.
- Your previous marriage is not a blueprint for every marriage
- Life is about loving and forgiving and enjoying, apply the same to your marriage
- Don’t hesitate to show your partner love in any kind of way
Will remarrying be easy?
When it comes to things such as marriage expenses we keep so close to our hearts as humans. For ages, we can remember we are taught about true love and finding your perfect romantic partner so when marriage doesn’t work out for the majority of people it feels personal. A lot of trauma and fear are built around any love or thoughts of marriage that may come in the future. So when remarrying, even when we aren’t aware of it, we are carrying a lot of fear of what might happen but you must go into it open Hearted. It sure won’t be easy if you’re marrying someone who’s also remarrying but you both have to work towards a goal which is being together and loving each other.