Finding your one true love is never easy. Those that have across it are one the luckiest. Most people in this day and age don’t even marry people they love. Many people have given advice saying you don’t search for your true love they find you and others have encouraged searching so how do you find true love?
Before true love
A lot of people have said to not work on yourself before a relationship and that your true love could love at your worst. Although this is somewhat the case for some people, it can’t work for everyone. Love needs action and intentionality.
Going into a relationship knowing you cannot love someone for who they are because you don’t even love you for who you are is a sign of a relationship going downhill. Of course, you can still work on yourself in a relationship but your partner needs to have something to work with. No one can help you unless you want to be helped.
Besides working on yourself, which is a broad aspect, there are some things that come before finding true love that needs to be taken into account. It’s important that you are your own person and know who you are before entering a serious relationship with your true love. This way even if it doesn’t work out with your true love, you are still you and not consumed by your relationship.
Here are a few things to do before finding your true love:
- Have your own hobbies
- Be comfortable with yourself
- Make friends and enjoy life
- Experience all you want to
- Don’t look for love
Finding your true love
The way to finding your true love will always be different depending on your entire life. Every little choice you have taken will have an influence on the love of your life. Whether it’s who they are, how you meet or when you meet it’s all connected. The same applies to every little experience we encounter.
The most important thing is doing what feels right and natural to you. Whether it’s believing that you have to go out there and find them or that they will find you wherever you are. A lot of love comes from believing in it, almost like manifesting it (creepy right?)
A lot of people believe your true love does not have to be romantic, it could be your sibling or your best friend. Although this is a more charming way to look at it, it is not the case for most people. People often feel love in their romantic relationships. Mainly because people have been conditioned to not show as much love and emotion towards friends and family.
It’s important to know your true love might not be your forever relationship. Often times our true love is the one that got away. The best part of your experience with them is how natural it is. This is where not searching for your true love comes in.
Whenever you try to control a relationship, whether it’s to last longer or for him to simply act better the relationship starts to lose its spark. Love, especially true love has to happen naturally. Let it be wild and unexpected and it’s a relationship you’ll always remember.