For years now there have been fights in relationships about overly including family and somewhere family is too distant. To be honest there is no satisfactory balance that can be pointed out with how your partner’s family should be.
In this article, we will be talking about how family affects your relationships. If there is a group that is heavily opinionated about your love life it’s your family. The majority of relationships can be made or broken by family.
Ways in which family affects your relationships
Being overly involved
It’s very important to keep some intimate things between you and your partner. Having family involved in fights and good things help them create their own opinions on your relationships. This may cause large likes or dislikes to your partner or your relationship. At odd times it would cause the family to feel as though they can intervene in your relationship when they really shouldn’t.
Family can like your partner and occasionally spend time with them but there should be a boundary. If not, the relationship will feel as though there are more than two parties.
Family being distant
Everyone knows that your family has to somewhat be fond of your partner. Depending on the stage of your relationship, your family will play a big role in the liking of your partner. If your family has to enjoy and like the company of your partner. If not your partner would sense this energy and not want to be around your family. This would only cause a dilemma for you.
Family feeling as though they know what’s best for you
This behaviour normally comes from mothers. They feel as though they know exactly which person you should’ve dated and why. A lot of reasons as to why your current partner is not who you should be with. Sometimes it has nothing to do with changing your partner but is mostly involved with how your relationship should be going.
Family acting as though they are superior to your partner
Whether it’s siblings or parents, they feel obligated to be a top priority in your life and your partner should come after. There is nothing wrong with prioritizing your family but it should not be an entitlement where your partner comes last after your family. Your partner will feel as though they are not important and will forever come last. Which does not lead to any security for your partner in the long run.
How to prevent your family affecting your relationships
There are a few ways in which you can prevent your family from affecting your relationships. Although the journey or the conversations won’t be easy, it will be sustainable for your relationship in the long run. These ways include:
- Create a healthy boundary with your family
- Encourage your family to be more supportive and encouraging as that is what you would do for them.
- Making set plans with plans with family occassionally to get to know your partner.