Over the years there have been multiple psychologists who have come forward and said that love and lust can sometimes be confused. The two feelings tend to play on the same chemical reactions in our bodies and brains. At the front view, it may be hard to differentiate the two. Oftentimes you really have to sit yourself down and you’ll realise the answer is within.
There have been multiple times where two people were seeing each other actively and in a romantic relationship until one of them realised they didn’t feel love. Nobody wants to waste their time with someone that they think they love but they actually don’t. You want to actively love someone without it just being a physical attraction.
Signs of love
Wanting you around outside of sexual activities
When you love someone, trying things out with your partner is something you enjoy. The end of the day could end with no sexual contact and you wouldn’t be bothered in the slightest. At this point, it is all about simply enjoying your partner and wanting to see different versions of them in different settings.
Intimate touch with no sexual expectation
When you two can hug or kiss without feeling the need to rip each other’s clothes off. This shows that there is genuine intimacy between the two of you and it is not based on sex. Getting to this stage of your relationship tends to show genuine love. This is also a number one sign that your boyfriend loves you. girls are not as drawn to having sex very quickly just from touch.
Family and friendship outings
When they invite you to spend time with their family and friends. With platonic energy there other people can get to know you and they can get to know you in a different setting as well. Getting to know someone takes effort and intentionality. Love is definitely one of the fundamentals of getting to know a person. Once its family and friends are involved it is likely to be serious and shows signs of longevity.
Transparency and vulnerability
When someone loves you, being vulnerable when it comes to their feelings for your family or their past is almost natural. You want to make sure that your partner knows you as best as possible. You try to not make them doubt you in any way and want to make sure that your intentions are always clear to your partner. Making the relationship as healthy as possible.
Signs of lust
Genital excitement
One of the signs of last is genital excitement. Your genitals swell up and you can’t start sweating as soon as you see them. Even though you might not be thinking it your body is definitely radiating the energy of wanting to be sexual with them as soon as possible.
Not much in common between you two
One thing about lust or any situation where it’s purely sex-related there is nothing to talk about between the two of you. You realise that conversations won’t short you’re not quite interested in longevity talk or whatever they are interested in. You also notice the energy from your partner that there is no foundation or stability outside of sex.
Always feel the need to get physical or kiss
You and your partner can not seem to just hang out without having to have sex. This also is a result of not having anything in common that you two can not talk or be interested in anything but the other has to say. The only thing that’s interesting is getting the clothes off as soon as possible.
Constant turn on
Every time you see them you cannot help but get turned on. Even in photonics settings your body just wants to have a taste of them. this normally results and having sex in unusual places.
Can lust turn into love?
The chances of lust turning into love are very slim. It is one of those rare cases where sneaky links find themselves turning into a serious relationship. Although it happens it does not mean that it happens for everyone.
The best way to try and change lust into love is by getting to know each other on a deeper level. Try to be friends. Although in most cases the chances of you two having much in common are slim. But if there are some similarities, begin by building on that. Get to know each other outside of sexual relations or situations that may quickly turn sexual.
If you do realise that you may feel lust for someone when you thought it may be love, it is up to you to communicate it. Especially when your partner may assume that you both feel love for each other. Give your partner the chance to decide whether it’s a relationship they can be in or they feel there is something better suited.
