Rejection is one of the hardest experiences in dating. If you have been rejected by someone and are struggling to deal with the rejection, there are some ways to help you get through it. There have been a few ways that have been created in hopes of dealing with rejection but not a lot of these routes help. Unfortunately, when it comes to dealing with rection your one way through is the hard way.
How to deal with rejection?
There are a few ways that have been created to deal with rejection the issue with these ways is they are very self-sabotaging and very self-destructing. In the 21st century, hookups are completely normal and meeting new people is just like going to the grocery store. You must be careful with how you deal with rejection. These emotions are closely related to getting through a breakup because people tend to try to find a rebound in the same way. Here are a few healthy ways to deal with rejection:
This is not the kind of reflecting where you have these intrusive thoughts that you listen to about how you’re not good enough. Simply reflect on why you felt you wanted them so bad what extreme change they going to bring into your life. In this reflection, you need to understand that something that is for you will always find you. You will realise that whatever fantasy or Love Story you had created in your head during the time of getting to know them or thinking about them was not real. You made them seem important you made them seem like the prize. Reflect on the fact that you are the prize.
It’s not about you
This serves as a daily reminder or a reminder used when needed. Think about it as though you were rejecting someone. As people will like to say we would never date someone ugly broke not funny etc we have so many standards. When it comes to us meeting a person like this we are not quick to let them go especially because as humans we just want to find our true love in whatever form it comes in. You know that if you were to reject this person it would be a you decision. It will be based on how you feel about relationships at that time and what you’re looking for and maybe just a little bit influenced by the other person but it’s not totally about them. The same goes with you being rejected you as a person have no issues they are just looking for something different maybe even something less.
Spend time with family
Often after we have been rejected we forget our worth. We start to see ourselves as less than and not good for anything, rejection is never easy. During this time you must spend time with your family and the people who make you feel most loved. People who remind you of who you are and how worthy you are of love and care. You must not forget this as easy as it may be to focus on the one person that doesn’t want to be with you remember that there is a whole group of other people who would spend their last breath with you.
Moving on is the best way to deal with rejection. When you are so fixated on the fact that you were rejected and even the person who rejected you you stay stagnant. Being stagnant is not something you want to do in this life. There will be so many more people to love you and see you as were the way more than you do yourself. Simply just remove your brain and your energy from the situation and take it as a “it happens” situation because it does.
Things not to do when dealing with rejection
Dealing with rejection can often take a huge mental toll on you. It can also change the trajectory of a lot of things in your life if you are not careful with how you handle rejection. A lot of people tend to get angry and possessive because they feel as though they are getting out and being rejected tends to hurt on a much deeper level. Sometimes the rejection was public and very embarrassing but there are still boundaries to what you cannot do when dealing with rejection. These will help you not cause any damage to yourself in the future and to other people no matter how small they may seem.
- Do not join the hookup culture
- Do not try to get a rebound as a sneaky link
- Don’t feel the need to contact the person who has rejected you for a few weeks until you heal
- Do not try to force yourself into a relationship with someone new
- Don’t avoid your feelings of hurt, anger or embarrassment
- Don’t go around bad-mouthing the person that rejected you, for it says more about you than it does them
Can I get over being rejected?
Yes being rejected is a part of life. Whether it’s by a crush or your type, work, friendships, there will be a lot of rejections along the way. Our true character is in the way we handle rejection. If you are quick to lash out no one wants to be associated with you but if you’re calm and understanding there might be a different side of you and feel as though you should be given a chance not always but sometimes. Many people before you and up to you will go through being rejected and will also deal with it. If everything is ever wanted always said yes then what would be the point of wanting in the first place?