There have been multiple arguments of whether we should be dating one person at a time or multiple people in your dating phase. There are two different types of dating phases. The first part of dating is solely you and the person you’re seeing, also known as simply just being in a relationship, the early stages of your relationship. Another version would be when you’re single dating multiple people before you get into anything exclusive. Keyword being single.
A large number of people have taken offence to their dating mate seeing other people while they were both single. Oftentimes the biggest issue is a lack of communication. If both parties can communicate that we are single and we can see other people there wouldn’t be so much confusion. People automatically assume that because we are dating each other we are only talking to each other and it doesn’t work that way.
Dating one person at a time?
Dating one person at a time should be a personal preference. You cannot force it on the person you’re seeing but simply know that you are doing this for yourself. There are pros and cons that come with dating one person at a time.
Pros
- You get to solely focus on the person leading to getting to know them better.
- There are no distractions so there is a quicker chance of you knowing if they are the ones for you or not
- Off the bat shows loyalty to your partner helping in the trajectory of your relationship
- You are not overly consumed with too many different people at once leading to a clear focus on other parts of your life
Cons
- You don’t know if they are only dating you
- Leaves a lot of room for heartbreak
- Situationship could not lead to a relationship and would have to start over meeting someone new.
That is why dating one person at a time is solely your decision; that way when things go bad you cannot fully blame the other person. In bad cases, the situation never turns into a relationship and nine times out of ten you end up feeling played.
Dating multiple people at once
Dating multiple people at once can really help you read out the people that are not serious about you and the ones that genuinely put in the most effort. This also does have its own downsides which are pretty much the opposite of dating one person at a time.
Pros
- You have your best bunch to pick from
- Get to see different types of standards and pick from those
- Help you figure out what it is that you want and don’t want out of a partner due to the multiverse experiences
- Easily have fun with different people often giving you different experiences
Cons
- Get too used to having a different number of people talking to you.
- Might lose a good chance of a healthy relationship due to talking to too many people.
- People who want you will notice and feel the lack of seriousness from you and decide to detach or remove themselves from you.
Although dating multiple people may seem a lot more fun there is a lot more to lose in the long run. Eventually, the fun runs out and you’re back to looking for someone that’s best for you. In these cases, you laugh and pick one person and only months later realise the one that wanted you for all the right reasons has left.
Which dating version is best?
There is no dating version that is best. When you start dating, whatever reason you pick from has to resonate with you as a person and be something you are deeply interested in. Choosing a version based on other people will only throw you off and have you thinking you are the problem in some kind of way.
The thing about these versions is that they are complete opposites. One is all about focusing on one person and slowly but surely infatuated with that person only. The other is about having tons of people fall for you and want to be around you and show you all these different standards. It’s up to you to choose what you want and what feels works best for you. At the end of the day, it is all about feeling and how you feel with the praise or how you feel with praising the one person.
